Intrusive Thoughts: Bure Khayal Aur Checking Ko Samjhein

Yeh sun kar bahut afsos hua ki aap aise khayalon se guzar rahe hain. Aise bure khayal aana, khaas kar ke un logon ke baare mein jinse aap sabse zyada muhabbat karte hain, bahut pareshan kun ho sakta hai. Lekin main aapko batana chahta hoon ki aap akele nahi hain; bahut se log isi tarah ke ghair-ikhtiyari, na-pasandeeda khayalat se guzarte hain. Asal mein, aise khayalon ka aana aur unse itna ghabra jana, is baat ka saboot hai ki aap ek bure insaan nahi hain, balki aap apne bhai ki bahut parwah karte hain aur use nuqsan pahunchane ka tasawwur bhi aapko takleef deta hai. Aapka darna aur pareshan hona hi yeh dikhata hai ki aapka dil saaf hai.

Hamare dimagh kabhi-kabhi aise khayal paida karte hain jo hamari sabse gehri qadron (values) ke bilkul mukhalif hote hain. Jab aapko apne bhai ke baare mein aisa bura khayal aaye, to usse ladne ya usko zabardasti bhulane ki koshish karne ke bajaye, sirf yeh pehchan lein ki "Oh, yeh wohi pareshan karne wala khayal hai." Phir, us khayal ko bina judge kiye ya us par zyada tawajjo diye, aage badh jayen, jaise badal aasman mein guzar jate hain. Jitna hum aise khayalon ko importance dete hain ya unse ladte hain, utna hi woh takleef dete hain. Is tarah ke khayalat ko waswasa bhi kaha jata hai, aur inka maqsad sirf aapko pareshan karna hota hai.

Humare Pakistani muashre mein family aur rishton ki bahut ehmiyat hoti hai, aur aise khayalon se hone wali sharmindgi ya khauf aur bhi badh jata hai. Lekin yaad rakhiye, yeh sirf khayal hain, aur khayal aapki haqeeqat nahi hote. Aapka yeh darna ki 'main bura insaan hoon' hi is baat ka saboot hai ki aap ek zimmedar aur muhabbat karne wale bhai hain. Apne aap par narmi rakhiye aur is baat ko samjhiye ki aapka dimagh aapko dhoka de raha hai.

Agar do hafton tak yeh tareeqa azmane ke baad bhi aapko rahat na mile, aur yeh khayal aapki rozmarra ki zindagi par asar dalte rahen, to kisi family doctor (GP) se baat karna ek acha qadam ho sakta hai. Aap unko bata sakte hain, "Mujhe aise khayal aate hain jo mujhe bahut pareshan karte hain, aur main janna chahta hoon ki inka kya matlab hai." Woh aapko kisi psychologist ya psychiatrist ke paas refer kar sakte hain, jo aise khayalat ko samajhne aur unse nipatne mein aapki madad kar sakte hain. Aap sarkari aspataalon ke psychiatry departments, ya university counselling services se bhi madad le sakte hain. Yaad rakhein, Noor bhi yahan aapki baat sunne ke liye maujood hai.