If you were sexually abused as a child, being afraid to tell anyone is a common response—not a sign you did anything wrong. This page explains how to choose a safe person, what to say, and where to seek confidential support in Pakistan.
I am asking for help because I was sexually abused when I was young by people I knew, and I have carried guilt and fear in silence. I am now struggling with severe overthinking, anxiety, and possible depression, but I am too scared to tell anyone.
Aapne bahut mushkil cheezein batayi hain, aur yeh bata ke aapne inko kisi se share nahi kiya, aapka darr samajh mein aata hai. Sabse pehle, yeh baat bata doon ke aapne yeh likh ke bataya, yeh ek bada kadam hai. Aapki izzat aur amanat ka khyal rakhna mushkil tha, aur aapne khud ko samajhne ki koshish ki.
Yeh bhi suna lijiye, aapne jo kiya, woh aapki marzi se nahi hua. Bachpan mein log, khaskar family members, ko pata nahi hota ki woh galat kaam kar rahe hain ya nahi. Aapki cousin aur brother ne jo kiya, woh bhi aapke upar zor dabaya tha aur aapko darraya tha. Aapki marzi ko ignore kiya gaya, aur yeh galat hai. Aapki wajah se nahi.
Aur haan, bachpan mein kuch cheezon ka "enjoy karna" bhi ho sakta hai, kyunki woh aapki body ka natural response ho sakta hai. Aapko is par guilt feel karna bilkul natural hai, lekin aapko yeh samajhna chahiye ki aapne kuch galat nahi kiya. Aapne kisi ne kiya gaye zulm ka saamna kiya, aur wahi bohot mushkil hai.
Aapke dimaag mein chal raha hai kyun? Aapne jo experience kiye hain, woh aapke brain ko "danger" samajhne ki training di hai. Aapka brain abhi bhi wahi "fight or flight" mode mein hai, jis wajah se aapko anxiety, overthinking, aur sometimes depression feel ho sakte hain. Yeh aapki body ki normal reaction hai, aap weak nahi hain. Aapki body ne survival strategy develop ki hai, aur woh abhi bhi active hai.
Kya karen ab? Aapko ek safe person dhoondhna hai jis aap par trust ho sakta hai. Yeh koi bhi ho sakta hai: ek dost, school ki koi teacher, koi relative jo aapki baat sun aur samajh wala nahi ho, ya kisi doctor ko. Aapki umar 17 hai, toh aap kisi bhi government hospital ke psychiatry department (dimaag ke doctor) ko bhi dekh sakte hain. Wahan confidential aur free treatment milta hai. Aapko kuch bhi bolne se dar nahi karna chahiye. Aapki health ka khyal rakhna unka kaam hai.
Ek chhoti si technique aap yahan se shuru kar sakte hain: Jab bhi aapko anxiety feel ho, ya aapke dimaag mein woh cheezein chalne lagein, toh ek baar apni saansein par dhyan do. Sirf ek minute ke liye. 4 second tak andar le lo, phir 6 second tak bahar nikalo. Yeh aapki body ko "ab safe hai" kehne ka ek tarika hai. Isko daily practice karo, kuch bhi karne se pehle.
Aapne jo bataya hai, woh aapki story hai, aur aapko usko share karne ki zaroorat nahi hai jab tak aap khud ready nahi hain. Lekin aapko treatment ki zaroorat hai. Yeh anxiety aur overthinking aapko alone nahi rakh sakte. Aapko ek professional se baat karni chahiye, jo aapko samajh wala aur helpful mile.
Aapke paas jo options hain:
Aapko ek sentence mein unhe batana chahiye ki aapne "childhood sexual abuse" aur "severe anxiety" ke baare mein baat karni hai. Yeh cheezein unhe pata hone chahiye taki woh aapki madad karen.
Noor yahan par aapki baat sunne ke liye hai. Aap kisi se bhi baat karna chahein toh yahan likh sakte hain. Aap alone nahi hain.
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