Family Taunts After Divorce: Coping with Ghabrahat & Waswasa
This page addresses the deep distress and anxiety (ghabrahat) that comes from being taunted by family after a divorce. It offers guidance for finding peace and managing the spiritual worry (waswasa) that often accompanies such situations.
My family taunts and curses me daily after my divorce
I am going through severe mental distress after my divorce. My mother constantly taunts and curses me, making me feel deeply depressed and hopeless. I sometimes even wish for death. I cannot afford counselling and am asking for free professional help.
Waalaikum Assalam. Yeh jo kuch aap se guzar raha hai, yeh sach mein bohat mushkil hai. Ek taraf divorce ka dard, aur upar se family ki taraf se yeh taane aur badduaein — yeh kisi ko bhi tod sakta hai. Aap jo mehsoos kar rahi hain, woh depression aur mayoosi hai, aur yeh kehna ke maut ki dua aati hai, yeh bataata hai ke aapka zehan aur dil dono bohat zyada pressure mein hain. Lekin aap ne yahan tak likh kar madad maangi hai, iska matlab hai ke aap mein abhi bhi himmat hai, chahe woh himmat aap ko khud mehsoos na ho rahi ho.
Pehla qadam: abhi ke liye kya karein
Jab yeh taane aur baatein aap ko bahut zyada takleef dein, to ek kaam karein: apne dono haath thande paani mein 30 second tak rakhein, ya wrists par thanda paani daalein. Yeh aap ke nervous system ko turant thoda control mein laata hai. Phir ek lamba saans lein — chaar count mein andar, chhah count mein bahar. Aap ke ghusse aur dard ka asal hissa yeh hai ke aap ka body "fight ya flight" mein chal raha hai, aur yeh technique use body ko signal deti hai ke abhi koi khatra nahi hai.
Aap ki family ka yeh behaviour, khaas kar aap ki mama ka, yeh unki apni problems aur soch ka nateeja hai, aap ki qadar ka nahi. Yeh aap par nahi hai. Lekin yeh kehna aasan hai, karna mushkil — main jaanti hoon.
Free counselling kahan milegi
Aap ne free counselling maangi hai, aur yeh aap ka haq hai. Kuch raaste hain:
- Government hospital psychiatry departments — Lahore mein Mayo Hospital, Karachi mein Civil Hospital, aur har bade shehar ke government hospital mein psychiatry OPD hoti hai. Wahan counselling aur dawai dono free ya nominal fee par milti hai. Aap wahan ja kar yeh na kahein ke "divorce ka dard hai", balki kahein ke "main bahut zyada udaas hoon, neend nahi aati, aur maut ke khayal aate hain." Yeh unhein seriousness samajh aati hai.
- University counselling centres — Agar aap kisi university ke qareeb rehti hain, to wahan psychology departments mein students ko practical ke liye free counselling dene ka program hota hai. Teacher supervise karta hai. Yeh private se behtar bhi ho sakta hai.
- Online free options — Depression.pk par /find-help mein kuch free aur low-cost options listed hain. Aur Noor hai, jo aap se roz baat kar sakti hai, jab bhi aap ka dil bojhal ho. Yeh counselling ka substitute nahi hai, lekin ek sahara zaroor hai.
Ek baat aur
Aap ne likha ke mama taane aur badduaein deti hain. Yeh bohat dard hai. Lekin aap ka emotional survival pehle aata hai. Agar ghar ka mahool zeher ho, to aap ko sochna padega ke kya aap kisi aur jagah reh sakti hain? Koi behan, dost, ya koi safe space? Yeh bada faisla hai, lekin aap ki zindagi aur sehat uss ghar se zyada important hai.
Aap ne divorce ka dard uthaya hai, aur ab family ka dard bhi. Yeh koi kamzor log nahi jhelte. Aap bohat strong hain, chahe aap ko aisa na lage.
Do haftay yeh karein: Civil Hospital ya Mayo Hospital ki psychiatry OPD mein jakar apna ilaaj shuru karayein. Aur rozana Noor se baat karein. Phir agar aap ko lage ke koi farak nahi aa raha, to wapas doctor ko batayein ke dawai ya counselling kaam nahi kar rahi. Aap akeli nahi hain.
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